Do you feel like you’re constantly being pulled in several directions?
One kid needs this, another kid needs that; laundry is piling up, the house could use some attention, and you still have several errands to run.
Sounds like a typical day, right?
Only now you’re on a mission to accomplish your goals and fulfill your purpose. So you need to add that into the mix as well.
And you’ve done the groundwork.
You’ve thought through your goals; you’ve written them down; but you’re having trouble executing them, because you can’t seem to get away from the pull of everyone’s wants, needs, and expectations long enough to execute them.
So, what do you do, when you can’t seem to focus long enough to make any real progress?
Re-evaluate Your Time
Sometimes when we set and plan out goals, in all of our excitement and enthusiasm, we may be a bit to unrealistic in our expectations.
For example, you may have set aside 30min. after lunch to work on your goals. Thinking the kids would lay down for their nap during this time, giving you the time and space, you needed to do what you have to do.
But when has nap time ever gone smoothly, for any mom?
Instead the kids are crying because they don’t want to lie down; or they’re getting up every few seconds to come tell you something, or they’re just plain refusing to stay in their beds altogether.
This is that point where you’re going to want to rethink the time you’ve scheduled for yourself; and this time be much more realistic.
Maybe you can stay up 30 minutes longer than normal, once the kids are asleep, and work on your goals then. Or maybe you can get up 30 minutes earlier each morning, before they wake up full of energy, and rearing to go.
Both will require adjustments and discipline, but at least during this time, you want have kids vying for your time, attention, and focus.
Settle Your Mind
If in addition to the kids, your mind is pulling you in several different directions, then you need to settle it.
If the overflowing laundry keeps coming to mind, or the thought of what in the world are you going to cook for dinner this evening, then you need to do one of two things:
- You need to intentionally stop and refuse those thoughts as soon as they come to mind; acknowledging that they are only there to distract you. And purposely and intentionally think about what it is you’re supposed to be thinking about. It may take numerous times of doing this, but if you’re consistent, you will see progress. Because you can train your mind to stay focused on the thing at hand.
- Or you can just do what needs to be done. Just get up, and go do those things that keep vying for attention in your mind, so that you can focus. Go start a load of laundry. Or sit and plan out what you’re going to make for dinner, and be done with that thought. Of course, here’s to hoping that other things don’t keep popping up in your mind, or you’ll be constantly stopping to go tend to them. Whatever the case, find which method works for you, and settle your mind.
Learning to sit and focus isn’t easy for most people, but it’s a whole new level of difficulty for moms. We are constantly needed, constantly wanted, and constantly have something we “should” be doing.
But remember that staying focused on achieving your goals and pursuing your purpose, is just as important as many of your other responsibilities.
Don’t allow the challenge of staying focused to cause you to quit and give up. Instead, re-evaluate your time and settle your mind, so that staying focused, becomes much easier to do.
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