Everything has a price on it. Are you aware of that? Maybe you only think about prices when you’re out shopping or buying coffee at the neighborhood café. But the fact is, there’s a give and take all around you. Nothing comes for free; not even the achievement of your goals and your purpose.
And it’s not just a one-time thing.
I’ve heard it said that, at every crossroad in pursuing your purpose, be ready to have to give up something.
I don’t know about you, but I’m not always a fan of losing things. I tend to get pretty attached; I tend to get comfortable with what I have.
But that’s the point when you need to ask yourself, “How bad do I want this?”
If you want it bad, like I think you do, then it’s time for something to go. And chances are, you already know what that something is.
But if not, here are some ideas to get you started:
Ask Yourself, What’s Stealing Your Time?
In one of my previous posts, https://nolongerastayathomemom.com/2019/12/17/keep-track-of-the-time/, I talk about the importance of keeping track of the time; and being aware of time stealers.
I’ve found that some common time stealers are things like:
Scrolling through social media. Have you noticed just how addictive social media can be? I could have the most genuine intent of being on there for only a few minutes, and look up to find that half-an-hour has passed. That is a serious time waster!
Watching too much T.V. Thanks to streaming sites such as Netflix, I have become the ultimate binge watcher. I am not very good with sitting and watching one episode, and then patiently waiting for next week’s episode. No. I like to let the episodes pile up, and then watch as many as I can in one sitting. Clearly, this is a problem for a mom with a ton of responsibilities, who has also set out to achieve some super big goals.
Television time had to be reduced drastically in my life, if I wanted to have the time to pursue my dreams. This means I gave up watching many shows that I really enjoyed. Except This Is Us, I love that show and I am team Kate all the way! So I wasn’t letting that one go…at least not yet anyway.
As I said, you can find some more examples of some common time stealers in that previous post I mentioned. Time stealers will need to go, or at least be drastically cut down; if not now, then for sure at the next crossroad.
Ask Yourself, Who’s Holding You Back?
Relationships are quite a bit trickier. Where you can just cut an activity out of your life, relationships can’t always be tossed away. So how do you handle it when it’s not a thing holding you back, but an actual person.
Have a conversation with them. Maybe you have a great friend in your life; someone you genuinely care about. But if your honest, this friend fits the perfect description of Debbie Downer. She always focuses on the negative, even when it comes to the pursuit of your dreams.
Or just maybe, she’s the friend who just wants to hang out and kick back all day. She can’t be supportive of your dream, because that would leave her all alone.
Either way, her words and attitude towards your dreams and passions are draining.
So what do you need to do? You need to have a conversation with her.
Like I said, relationships are trickier, so I wouldn’t abruptly sacrifice the relationship, but I would have a serious talk with her.
I would let my friend know that her negative comments about my life and what I’m trying to do with it, doesn’t feel good.
I would also reassure her that, although I can’t spend as much time with her as I used to, I still value her and the relationship. I would even encourage and motivate her, to start pursuing her dreams.
I believe although it may be a hard conversation, a real friend will take your words to heart, and do what they can to support you. In this way you’re not sacrificing a whole friendship, but you are sacrificing the amount of time, the two of you used to spend together.
Sacrificing doesn’t always feel good. But it is necessary if you want to take your life to the next level in pursuing your purpose. Though you may not need to give it all up at once, there will be a time of sacrifice at every crossroad.
So make sure you’re prepared to answer the question, “How bad do I want this?’
Thank you for taking the time to read this post. I genuinely appreciate all of my long-term and new readers!!