Sometimes after you’ve been hurt by someone, or have failed over and over at something, it’s easy to put your guard up. It’s easy to refuse to get your hopes up again.
You may even come to believe that if you stop expecting good things to happen, you won’t be disappointed when they don’t.
It sounds like a much easier way to live doesn’t it? A safer way, nonetheless.
But a life without hope, isn’t a life fully lived.
I know, because I’ve given up on hope before.
Disappointments can be crushing. They drain you of energy, zeal, and passion; and they block the view of what could be. They don’t allow you to see what’s just on the horizon.
If this is where you are right now, my heart goes out to you. I know this isn’t easy. I know life isn’t easy.
But also, because I’ve been there, and I’m now on the other side of disappointment, where hopelessness ran amuck, I can tell you what’s on the horizon.
And just maybe, you’d like to join me there.
Passion is there. I now know, that a life without passion is dull and boring. You’re not excited about much of anything, and everything is very mundane. To really experience life, you need to really care about someone and something.
Joy is there. Notice I didn’t say happiness. That’s because happiness is based on our circumstances. When things are good, we’re happy. When things are not good, we’re not happy. But joy isn’t like happiness. Joy is a constant that remains with you, even when times are tough. It is an inner sense of well-being, even amidst chaos.
Peace is there. This is hands down one of my favorites. You don’t have much, if you don’t have peace. It’s that quiet inner calm, of knowing you’re okay, just as you are; even while working to improve yourself.
Hope is there. Yes hope. The one you’ve been avoiding; and the reason why you put your guard up in the first place. But hope is a necessity. To give up on hope is to give up on life. Without hope you’ll always feel like you have no reason to keep living; but you do! Your life, and your future is important and matters to all of us.
Every single one of us are put on this earth for a specific purpose; unique to each individual. I want to know what your purpose is. I want to see it and experience it.
I used to also believe that I didn’t matter. That I had no real purpose, or at least not one of value. But I learned that was a lie. And now I hear from others, some that I don’t even know personally, how my purpose and my life, makes a difference in theirs.
You may feel like you don’t matter, but our feelings deceive us. You do matter; you matter to me.
It’s time to get your hopes up again. It may feel scary and difficult to do; but what’s on the other side is so worth it. It’s worth giving hope another chance. Let your guard down today, and make a choice to fully live. Go out and enjoy all that has been waiting for you. It’s right there on the horizon, do you see it?
As I said, I know what it feels like to feel hopeless. To feel like you don’t matter and you have no real purpose. But I’ve also made it to the other side. If you’re a mom who struggle with these feelings, I’m here to listen and be a voice of gentle wisdom and reasoning. Please don’t hesitate to reach out to me through email. I am not a professional doctor, therapist, psychologist, or counselor; nor am I a good substitute for one. I’m simply a mom, willing to be a listening ear and a friend. My email address is firstname.lastname@example.org.