If you would have told me some months ago that I was a perfectionist, I would have laughed. I am not the woman who has to have her house immaculate. Clean, but not immaculate. And I am definitely not the woman who has to serve the perfect recipe or give away the perfect batch of cookies. I wasn’t even the school girl who had to get perfect grades. I do my best, but I don’t strive for perfect; or so I thought.
Hello, my name is Monica; and I’m a recovering perfectionist.
Perfectionism has been very sneaky in my life. Often masquerading as a “wise decision.” Tricking me into believing that my choices and decisions were for my good, when in reality, perfectionism was rearing its ugly head, trying to steal my confidence, and my destiny.
I can’t begin to tell you how many times I’ve set out to pursue a goal, only to have perfectionism whisper to me that I’m not good enough. I don’t have the right look; surely, I’ll be rejected. So back into my comfort zone I’d crawl.
“Yes, that makes sense,” I’d convince myself. Why risk humiliation, I could lose some weight, wait until I have a more “acceptable” look, and then pursue the dream.
But what perfectionism fails to tell you, is that someday never comes.
You never achieve the perfect look (what is that anyway?). There’s never a perfect time. If you’re a busy mom of a 6 months old, you’re going to be just as busy of a mom when that child is 16 years old. Trust me!
Whatever it is perfectionism has you convinced to wait for, it isn’t coming. Because the truth is, things will never line up perfectly, so you have to make a decision to move forward, imperfect and all.
I once heard a quote that I have not forgotten. It was Winnie the Pooh who said it, in the movie Christopher Robin. He said, “Today, is always the very best day.”
Perfectionism will trick you into believing that “one day,” is the very best day. But like Pooh said, it’s today.
So let me ask you, what have you been putting off, for far too long? Believing that the right time, will show up one day.
Whatever it is, it’s time to stop believing the lie. The very best day is already here; how about starting that thing today!
And if you’re like I was, and don’t see yourself as a perfectionist; you need to reconsider that thought. Because it just might be you who needs to turn to someone and say, “Hi, my name is__________, and I’m a perfectionist.
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