The mental and physical task of “rediscovering” who you are can seem crazy overwhelming and super time consuming. I don’t know about you, but I think I could take this on a lot better if I were to break it down into steps. And to be honest, I don’t even have the mental stamina to decide what all those steps are right now. But I do have one. So for now, let’s focus on the one. Purging.
We all have something in our lives that we know serves no good purpose. It could be an actual thing, a toxic relationship, a bad habit, self-deprecating thoughts, a character flaw that we’ve just come to accept and allow to run rampant in our lives, or an addiction. My guess is, by now, something has come to your mind. Whatever that is, that needs to go. If nothing popped into your mind, that doesn’t mean your exempt from this exercise. It just means you need to spend some time thinking about it. Because one thing I’m sure we can agree on, is that as we rediscover who we are, what we want, and what our purpose is, we do not want to be weighed down by any physical or metaphorical garbage.
If you’re like me, quite a few things came to mind. I would advise you to not overwhelm yourself by trying to tackle them all at once. But how about two or three at a time. If you’re willing to share, I’d love to hear at least one thing you are committing to purging out of your life. Here’s my first two:
Staying up late at night. My wake-up time during weekdays is 5:30am, so that I can get myself ready before helping my kids prepare for school and then chauffeuring them to school. When I stay up too late, I’m dragging out of bed, lacking energy, moody, and I tend to overeat and be less productive throughout the day. For me, staying up late has to go!
My second purge is self-deprecating thoughts. I’ve struggled with insecurity my whole life. So thoughts like, you’re not smart enough, you don’t have what it takes to achieve those big goals, you’re not pretty enough, etc. etc., can play over and over in my mind like I a broken record. Those thoughts are not the truth, and I am going to start combating against those lies with the truth. They don’t get to take up space in my head anymore.
Start purging! Our future selves, deserves so much more than what we settled for with our past selves.